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Reflections of an Artist: Romeo, Romeo...
Here is a questions I'm sure a lot of single women ask themselves day in and day out, "Where are all the good brothers?" This was one of the many questions that arose in my head this morning when I woke up. Whatever happened to the guy who held the door open for you, who helped you carry your shopping bags, who took you out on a real date, and who enjoyed sharing intimate moments with you that didn't involve sex?
Being single has its perks but it also has its difficulties. I feel I'm at a time in my life when I'm ready for love-- maybe not marriage but love. A one on one committed monogamous relationship. But how can I find love in a world where men avoid old fashioned commitment? What happened? What went wrong? Most of my friends are single and some are okay with that and some aren't. We're constantly asking each other where are all the good men. None of us seem to have a clue. Is there anyone out there who can answer this seemingly unanswerable question?
Recently I read an article in Jewel Magazine (a cute new urban magazine) calle
d "The Hitch Doctor Improving Your Odds of Snagging a Great Mate" by relationship expert LaDawn Black who has written several books on relationship, and her article gave excellent advice from"knowing your the ish" and "changing your criteria" to "learning to listen" and I agreed with everything she had to say but the only question I have is how do you find a good man to snag? It's certainly not at the clubs where most guys only go after the girl they feel will give it up the first night and if he is trying to talk you, you best believe you probably weren't the only one and not only that most clubs the male to female ratio is like 1 guy to every 5 girls. Is it church cause the only thing those guys seem to be interested in are other guys. Someone please point me in the direction of the Goooood men and not just any old body, been there done that. One of the things LaDawn Black mentions in her article that I didn't particular agree with is "changing criteria" like what you expect in a man. I mean some women do go overboard, but am I wrong for wanting a guy the share the same character traits as I do. I'm beautiful, intelligent, smart, educated, talented, some what independent, etc. etc. the list goes on and on. Is there something wrong for wanting more? Mood: Dazed and Confused!
Being single has its perks but it also has its difficulties. I feel I'm at a time in my life when I'm ready for love-- maybe not marriage but love. A one on one committed monogamous relationship. But how can I find love in a world where men avoid old fashioned commitment? What happened? What went wrong? Most of my friends are single and some are okay with that and some aren't. We're constantly asking each other where are all the good men. None of us seem to have a clue. Is there anyone out there who can answer this seemingly unanswerable question?
Recently I read an article in Jewel Magazine (a cute new urban magazine) calle
d "The Hitch Doctor Improving Your Odds of Snagging a Great Mate" by relationship expert LaDawn Black who has written several books on relationship, and her article gave excellent advice from"knowing your the ish" and "changing your criteria" to "learning to listen" and I agreed with everything she had to say but the only question I have is how do you find a good man to snag? It's certainly not at the clubs where most guys only go after the girl they feel will give it up the first night and if he is trying to talk you, you best believe you probably weren't the only one and not only that most clubs the male to female ratio is like 1 guy to every 5 girls. Is it church cause the only thing those guys seem to be interested in are other guys. Someone please point me in the direction of the Goooood men and not just any old body, been there done that. One of the things LaDawn Black mentions in her article that I didn't particular agree with is "changing criteria" like what you expect in a man. I mean some women do go overboard, but am I wrong for wanting a guy the share the same character traits as I do. I'm beautiful, intelligent, smart, educated, talented, some what independent, etc. etc. the list goes on and on. Is there something wrong for wanting more? Mood: Dazed and Confused!
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